Navigating Holiday Triggers: Finding Peace in Family Gatherings
Not every family moment will be picture-perfect—but every trigger can be an invitation to deeper understanding and stronger boundaries.
The holidays are supposed to feel magical, right? Joyful. Connected. Full of cozy family moments straight out of a Hallmark movie.
But for a lot of us… it’s more like: “Deep breaths. Don’t take the bait. Smile through the tension.” 😅
Family gatherings have a way of digging up everything we thought we’d already handled — old dynamics, past hurts, and unspoken expectations.
But what if we flipped the script this year?
Reframe the Trigger
What if those triggers weren’t setbacks, but signs — gentle nudges pointing toward where you’re ready to heal?
Every trigger is just a teacher in disguise, asking you to look closer, not react faster.
When something or someone pushes your buttons, it’s not just about them — it’s information about you.
What boundary needs to be strengthened?
What old story is being replayed that doesn’t serve you anymore?
Pause.
Breathe.
Name what’s coming up without judgment.
You can’t control other people’s behavior, but you can control how you respond — and that’s where your power lives.
What is something you can learn about yourself and grow from if you notice your next trigger?
Boundaries Without the Guilt
Let’s be honest: boundaries get a bad rap during the holidays.
You’re told to “be kind,” “keep the peace,” or “don’t make things awkward.”
But protecting your energy isn’t rude — it’s respectful.
Try these quick scripts when things get uncomfortable:
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“I’d love to talk about something lighter.”
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“I need a quick breather; I’ll be back in a few.”
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“I appreciate your concern, but I’ve got it handled.”
It’s not about building walls — it’s about keeping your peace.
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The Connection Challenge
This week’s challenge: show up for you before showing up for everyone else.
Take five minutes in the morning — before the texts, the kitchen chaos, the guests — to check in with yourself.
What do I need today? What can I let go of?
The more grounded you feel, the easier it is to stay present when things get loud (literally and emotionally).
How can creating and holding a boundary bring more peace for you this holiday season?
Becoming My Best Self
I love the holidays, but I know they can be heavy. We lost my father-in-law right before Thanksgiving — his favorite holiday — and it changed how we celebrate. We still honor our traditions, but now we allow space for both laughter and grief. It’s about finding the balance between missing and remembering.
The Beat on Repeat
Our Thanksgiving tradition is to listen to Alice's Restaurant at noon EST! 🎶
The Hustle + the Heart
I am beyond thrilled to be partnering up with Haus Collective and hosting my first Fresh Start: Lunch and Learn— a cozy mid-day reset where we’ll eat, laugh, and actually breathe while learning how to:
💛 Manage stress before it manages you
💛 Set boundaries that stick (without the guilt)
💛 Make time for calm that fits your real life
It’s not another thing on your to-do list — it’s the break you didn’t know you needed.
✨ One hour. A fresh start. A lighter you.
📅 Monday, Dec 1 | 11:30am–1:00pm
📍 Haus Collective, Orlando
Seats are limited so grab yours today!
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Here’s your reminder: you don’t need a perfect holiday to have a peaceful one.
💬 If you’re ready for a calmer holiday season, let’s talk about how you can protect your peace and find joy again.
Let’s work together — whether through therapy, coaching, or one of my upcoming workshops.
You deserve systems that actually stick. Reach out for your free consultation call!
